Stress And Finding A Balance

Everyone is affected by stress in one way or another. Managing stress, at times, can feel overwhelming but it is a matter of how we view and think about a trying situation, and then taking proactive actions.

You can hit the Net and find 1000’s of tips to combat stress. Exercise, eat well, take time for you, this list goes on. How about trying the internal instead of the external?

Getting to know who you truly are is number one on my list of combating stress. Be willing to take the time for introspection. I’m talking about real introspection, the type where you look at and acknowledge your faults, as well as your strengths. So what happens after you know all the pluses and minuses about you? You now have an arsenal to draw upon.

How did I acquire all this stuff?

Have you ever had the thought, “How did I acquire all this stuff?” C’mon admit it, you know that you have.

Twice a year, when I do the seasonal clothing switch, I always manage to find some item that I’ve purchased goodness knows when and have never used. I once found a DKNY handbag in the back of one of my closets. Now this probably sounds like I’ve been one major self-indulgent Diva. Yea, okay, I’ll admit…once upon a time, when I could afford it, I was. I worked my ass off, made my money and spent my money.

Times, oh my, they have changed. So what’s a girl to do? Go clean your closets! Today, as I was cleaning mine; I found a briefcase with wheels that was still in the never opened box. Heaven! I went shopping without spending a dime or setting foot outside of the house. On a philanthropic note, all those items that you may find and you know you’ll never use, give them to a charity because someone probably needs them.

Happy Shopping!

10 Reasons Why Guys Leave

If you’re crying in your mochaccino because your guy just left you, hopefully these reasons may give you some insight and make you feel better.

1. 
   
   He didn’t like your friends.
2. 
   
   Your laugh got on his nerves.
3. 
   
   You weren’t able to defend your choice of beer.
4. 
   
   You choose to answer your cell phone, ignoring him and making him feel like he wasn’t number one.
5. 
   
   You changed your FaceBook status to “in a relationship” before he did.
6. 
   
   You didn’t keep a change of clothes at work and did the “walk of shame.”
7. 
   
   You didn’t break all ties with your exes.
8. 
   
   If you believe reason 1-7, get a reality check and cancel your subscription to Cosmo!
9. 
   
   He is a complete douche-bag.
10. 
    
    He is a GUY not a MAN!

Now, allow yourself exactly 24 hours to cry over Mr. Loser. Then go get your girlfriends, party, and thank God that you’re not with the tool anymore.

Are we stereotyping ourselves?

Last week, I received a phone call from a girlfriend who holds the position of CEO at a relatively decent sized company. She had called to vent about woman-to-woman jealousies within her office and how she feels that she is perceived as having “Queen Bee Syndrome.” During our conversation, I took a very supportive stance. But our conversation really got me thinking about stereotypes of women in the workplace.

I sought out to find the male perspective and found that the majority of men, which I spoke with, believe the typical stereotypes that women are catty, less efficient and the worst, that women in positions of authority are generally bitchy. I’ve spent a good portion of my career in “male dominated” industries. If we are catty, less efficient and bitchy, I wonder what the terminology is for those same male behaviors.

As women we need to stop using stereotypical terminologies if we expect men to stop perceiving us this way!